Friday, April 30, 2010


I don't understand what is going on with these two companies.  As some of you may know, John Sweeny has been fighting with them for sometime.  You can follow is blog
on his fight.
I do give him a lot of credit for doing all he has and the fight is putting up for the gamers.
I have my own issues with both of them and have begun my own fight.  I am taking my fight to Dr. Phil.  That's right, when you need something done take to the big guys.  I have written him a long letter and hope he will assist me in my fight.   My fight is partially what John is fighting for but I have other concerns I would like them to address, the safety of our children. 
So I ask that you support us both in our battles.  As well I do reach out to you and ask you to follow John if you are a gamer.  He needs to reach 3000 to get a job.  I wish John all the luck and if I get to go on Dr. Phil I will do my best to assist him in his fight.  I had a post earlier...Mother on a Mission.  I am determined to get us our privacy we deserved but more importantly get the safety that is needed for our children.

Friday News

TGIF!!  Its going to be beautiful this weekend, hoping to get me and Alexis out to the park.  First she has to sing tomorrow for Communion, so proud of her and all the children in the school choir.  They work so hard. 
I realized just a little while ago that today is the day I started dating my late husband April 30th, 1990. R.I.P Joey, you are truly missed by me and others. 
Gosh I look back on my life and think wow.  I survived a husband passing, my dad passing a year and half later, other family members with in months or years.  Then I gave birth to a beautiful little girl.  Of course had so much heartbreak and stress in the middle of that and after.  I wouldn't change things.  All that has happened made me who I am today.  I am a better person today, for when you lose a husband or wife it makes you see life, people etc so differently.  I am now quicker and forgiving then I used to be. 
Now other chapter has already started a few months back and I am very excited.   I am so focused on my life and keeping it together.  I have come so far and have more to go but I can't believe how far I have come.  With the love and support of family and friends I have gotten my life back.  One or two more major bridges to cross but I have already climbed mountains a few bridges ...piece of cake. :-D
So Alexis and I going to have some fun after school.  Going to play some games and just hang out.  Poor child is suffering so bad with her allergies, but doesn't let it stop her.  I am looking forward to a good weekend even with her father's pending visit.  Which of course this morning calls and says not sure he now surprise there.  Just feel bad for Alexis for she will be upset. 
Well I hope you have a great weekend!

Thursday, April 29, 2010

Thursday News

Well today is my late day picking Alexis up, she has choir practice.  They are singing for First Holy Communion this Saturday.  Hard to believe its already been a year since she received.
I got a lot of studying done this morning and that made me feel great.  I had been behind but need to do more tonight for test is now Monday. Lucky me for I am so not ready for tomorrow.  I am really loving school it will be so rewarding in the end.  In the meantime I am trying to just get the rest of me together.  Life is really good close to great just need to get a few last minute things straighten out.  Its been a very long road for me and glad to see I am almost at the end where happiness awaits.
So I mentioned yesterday about the ex calling etc.  I have vowed to give it a fair shot.  Its only right for him and I.  Will it work out who knows, do we ever know..NO  Heck if you asked me 4 or 5 months ago if my relationship was solid I would of told you yes only to find out 2 weeks later I was SOOOOOO wrong.  I am committed and that is what I expect in return.  There are bumpy roads ahead and need someone who is willing to stand by my side and help me through it. 
It just feels great to feel so good.  I am really myself again and I love that.  Alexis and I are back to laughing all the time, having fun and enjoying life.  Sure there are those few moments, don't we all have them with our children.  All in all her and I are so much better and I am so thrilled about that.  She is so much happier and that is what is so important. 
Unfortunately neither of us will be that happy this weekend, for her father will be down from Vermont for his visit.  OH YEAH!!!  The new me has learned to get through it with a smile and being as sweet as pie. 
Now just counting the days to summer vacation!!!!!  Alexis, myself and my family are either going to North Carolina or Disney.  After this past weekend it sounds like North Carolina.  It will just be nice to get away and spend time with my family. 

Wednesday, April 28, 2010

Wednesday News

Alexis' class went into NYC for a show, I was so worried. The streets there are so busy but they all arrived back safely.  She had a great time. 
I had a doctor's appointment looks like we are finally getting to the end of it all.  Only thing is yesterday and today i felt faint and sick.  He thinks its just my sinuses and ears.  Need to see if it keeps up then he will order the necessary tests.  He said my ears and sinuses were all congested and with the cold\winds I think could be causing an the problem.  See what happens tomorrow.  Other then that I am feeling so much better. So happy to be feeling like me again.  Also being basically pain free have some minor pain here and there from all the walking I am doing.
I am trying so hard to take care my day to day things, Alexis and school and my own schooling. Its been hard and my studies have suffered but getting back on track.   I need to get done so I can take care of her and I.
I had an ex call me out of the blue and looking to get together.  So I went to breakfast with them yesterday and saw them today.  I want so much to feel love again.  Just wasn't feeling it with this guy but wasn't really up to it either.  Been so busy, wiped out from not sleeping well so was just out of it.   Will have to give it a fair chance before saying its not happening.  Some say why? he is an ex for a reason and I agree but we ended on good terms.  It wasn't right at the time and not sure about now.  I have grown into someone new. I do want love and happiness just not sure if now is the time or even if could be the one.  I had a spark the last time this time not so much.  I think it could be from having my heart broken recently and not wanting that to happen again, so have wall up around heart.  Or maybe its just not there anymore we are different and spark not there.  I guess I will find out in time. 
I had my niece's communion this past weekend.  She looked like a beautiful princess.  It was a great time and enjoyed seeing my family.  Her cake was made by Buddy the Cake Boss.  It was good and a beautiful cake.  My niece was upset he couldn't deliever it himself.  I was hoping he would I love him and wanted a picture.  Oh well maybe another time. 
Well hope the rest of the week goes well.

Sunday, April 25, 2010

If Tomorrow Never Comes....

This was sent to me from a mafia family member was posted by a mafia person...I wonder if they know what this feels like or can relate ..i can losing a spouse is terrible. Don't get me wrong losing a parent is terrible too but the one person you expect to spend special moments with, children with, i love yous or just a cuddle or hug..gone in a heart beat without any warning. You have the greatest day ever, you leave for work only to come home to find your best friend, lover, spouse, your world dead. Its will 13 years this July my husband died, most days lately it haunts me and still feels like yesterday. So many take love for granted and just go through life dating here and there. I have been in love with 2 men my whole life, one died on me and the other well, let me just say I wish him nothing but all the be happiness and love in the world as well hope is healthy and doing great.

One day a woman's husband died, and on that clear, cold morning, in the warmth of their bedroom, the wife was struck with the pain of learning that sometimes there isn't "anymore". No more hugs, no more special moments to celebrate together, no more phone calls just to chat, no more "just one minute." Sometimes, what we care about the most gets all used up and goes away, never to return before we can say good-bye, say"I love you."

So while we have it, it's best we love it, care for it, fix it when it's broken and heal it when it's sick. This is true for marriage.....And old cars... And children with bad report cards, and dogs with bad hips, and aging parents and grandparents. We keep them because they are worth it, because we are worth it.

Some things we keep -- like a best friend who moved away or a sister-in-law after divorce. There are just some things that make us happy, no matter what.

Life is important, like people we know who are special. And so, we keep them close!

I received this from someone who thought I was a 'keeper'! Then I sent it to the people I think of in the same way. Now it's your turn to send this to all those people who are "keepers" in your life, including the person who sent it, if you feel that way. Suppose one morning you never wake up, do all your friends know you love them?

I was thinking...I could die today, tomorrow or next week, and I wondered if I had any wounds needing to be healed, friendships that needed rekindling or three words needing to be said.

Let every one of your friends know you love them. Even if you think they don't love you back, you would be amazed at what those three little words and a smile can do. And just in case I'm gone tomorrow.

LOVE MY FAMILY AND MY "REAL" FRIENDS EVEN THOSE I NO LONGER SPEAK TO! You will always be in my heart, soul and mind.

Live today because tomorrow is not promised.

Monday, April 19, 2010

A Mother on a Mission

I am a single mom on a mission to keep my child as well as all children safe on the internet. 
As many of you may have seen on the news about a girl recently committing suicide due to being bullied.  A year or two ago a girl did it due to being bullied on Facebook.  Now all this still continues but now we have the Facebook Groups that are causing a stir.  There are many children on facebook playing Mafia Wars, Farmville, Mobsters, Castle Age etc the list goes on.  Many of these games have groups that "pimp" people out so your family or neighbors etc can grow.  Or groups you join and people request other players to add them.
The problem I am having is who is checking out all the members joining these groups.  NO ONE!!!  So now we have men (I only say men for that is all I have seen or been advised of doing this behavior) on here abusing children and women.  Men are going on this groups to get pimped out and children\women are accepting for the have faith and trust in Group Admins that these people are safe to add.  But these Admins are not doing background checks heck I am sure they are not even checking out the person's page.  I am a gamer and in many groups.  I will not accept a friend request unless I can check out the person's wall and I monitor it for a day or two before I accept.  I do this for I have had many of run ins with a few nuts or pervs.  Its not any fun, some of them can be very scary and threatening.  

We need to find away to protect our children.  How long do you think it will take before a child commits suicide over some man who is sexually harrassing them or then go to met them and see he is 40 not 16 like he said or worse goes to meet him and gets killed.  Heck recently there was a post going around from Mafia War Clan to beat up some guy (on the game) because he was harrassing someone's child so we know its happening.   Maybe some of you think wow she is going to extreme with it.  You know what I am not, for a child doesn't think the way us adults think. They think its their fault, they deserve it, or they did something wrong etc.  Then we have another child hanging themselves. 
Gosh my own child has a page and was getting request even when I put no request next to her name.  Now I no longer have control over her page her father does due to the requests and comments coming in.  We allow her to have  page to say in touch with friends as well as family not to be harrassed by some jerk or jerks.
Facebook, Zynga and other game makers need to find a way to protect our children.  Group Admins need to put more time and effort into screening people to protect our children.  I know you are all busy enough with your regular jobs, playing Mafia Wars etc and handling your groups.  But in the end doesn't it make more sense to put in the extra man power to save a child.  As a mother, daughter, sister this sexual abuse to children and women has to be fought harder then its being fought.  You all have\had a mother, sister, daughter, niece etc do you want someone being abusive to them in any manner. 
I am thinking of even calling in some help with this! I am may write to Dr. Phil to get Facebook, Zynga, Group Admins together to see what can be done to protect children on Facebook.  We know there is a way just need to figure it out and put it into motion.
Lets all have fun playing the games but lets also protect the children and women.   Protect the children is the most important! For the women as scared as they may be come they know how to handle it...OUR CHILDREN DON'T!  No don't think your child will come to you ..they won't due to shame or embarrassment!    Thank you for listening.

Friday, April 16, 2010

Do YOU really KNOW your girlfriend?

This is a story that I have been getting bits and pieces on the last few days.  A woman like this makes the rest of us look bad.  I guess the guy, well he makes the rest of the guys look bad.
These two people are dating from what I understand he is totally serious and thinks she is too.  Well it turns out that not so and worse part is she is not only serious but cheating and WITH SOMEONE HE KNOWS!!! WHAT?? REALLY!!!!   Like what's up with that?! One man isn't good enough so you need another then to make it worse you pick someone he KNOWS!!  I mean really have some respect for the guy but then again she is cheating so forget respect.  If that isn't bad enough, she is staying with him because he is not rich but he is financially ok and plan is to stay, set herself up financially.  Her and the new guy are having a good laugh at this guy's expense.   Plus does she know for sure the new guy doesn't have an STD or AIDS!!!!!  For she is going home and sleeping with the boyfriend so if she caught anything she is giving it to this poor innocent soul.  What if she gets pregnant?? gosh that is just another whole saga and I am sure she will pin it on the boyfriend for he has money.  So this poor sap will pay for a child that may not be his.  He won't ask for a DNA test for he thinks he is the only one.    Now depending on what state you are in you can get screwed paying for 18 years once you sign the birth certificate. You can find out later its not yours still have to pay.  So men if you are not sure heck either way ask for a DNA test when child is born.  Its worth the money especially if you have any doubt.  Heck I think it should be mandatory testing once child is born.  For women eventually get mad, tell the guy the child is not his now they go for test.  He finds out he is not the father and has his heart crushed.
Anyway back to this love triangle, I think this woman is so wrong for playing with both these guys.  The guy she is cheating with is wrong too.  If you love each other and want to be together then do it.  Why drag this poor guy through the mud.  For he is totally clueless. Feel bad for him for he is a nice guy.  To make matters worse they all hang out at times and this poor guy is still clueless. They do things right under his nose.  Someone needs to smack him on the back of the head and yell WAKE UP MAN!!!
So men remember DNA test no matter what, she may get mad and scream...could be sign of  guilt don't back down.
Look for signs especially if you are out, is she to flirty with someone or to touchy feely.
Ladies you need to watch for signs too.  I am talking to the men only because this is about a women.  But we need to be careful too.  We don't want our men cheating or have a woman flirting with our man, oh no she didn't go there :-D time for a butt whoopin!
I hope for this guy he finds out soon enough or she at leasts dumps him.  I hope that he doesn't get an STD or AIDS etc.  No one deserves to be treated this way or taken advantage of because they have finances in order. Good luck Guy!

Tuesday, April 13, 2010


Today I turn 43 and begin a new me!  I have had so so many things go on in my life that have held me back from living life and enjoying it.  I have beautiful wonderful daughter and want to give her the mom she deserves as well enjoy life.  This birthday a New and Improved Donna is born!  I am back to school tomorrow, working, getting things in order to live my life they way I WANT TO.  Not the way others told me to do it.  No one will ever lock me down or control me AGAIN!!!!  I am somebody's daughter, sister and mother!!! I deserve to be treated the right way and will be!!! I won't take anymore abuse!!!  And for those that have hurt me in the past, well I wish you all the best and forgive you!  Won't say forget for I will never forget plus not forgetting is my way to feed my strength to get stronger.  I have no hate for anyone.  I have gone to confession and asked God for his help and forgiveness.  
The new Donna is greater then ever and her life is on the right track and getting better with each day!

Thursday, April 8, 2010


Well its been a good and bad week, forget the bad..the good or should I say great part is I am going back to school!!!!  I have finally got my life in order! I am also working part time and enrolling in school has just lifted my heart and soul to total happiness.  I have a big reveal coming up which has added to my happiness.  I have worked hard!  May 6th is the big reveal day! I thought it would be later but now I  think I will be on time!
Alexis is going so much better she had a rough last 3 months with school but we are getting things back on track.  She is back to her karate classes and I hope to go back soon! 
My Goddaughter is receiving her First Communion on April 24th!  We are so happy and excited for her!  Will get to see my family and spend time with them! 
The great weather is also lifting my spirits!  Life is GREAT!!!  MY LIFE IS FINALLY TOGETHER!!!